Friday, December 8, 2023

A CRUCIAL PERSPECTIVE

 

"I am informed by philologists that the rise to power of these two words, “problem” and “solution,” as the dominating terms of public debate is an affair of the last two centuries, and especially of the 19th, having synchronized, so they say, with a parallel rise to power of the word “happiness.”. . . On the whole, the influence of these words is malign, and becomes increasingly so. They have deluded poor men with Messianic expectations, which are fatal to steadfast persistence in good workmanship and to well-doing in general. Let the valiant citizen never be ashamed to confess that he has “no solution to the social problem” to offer his fellow-men. Let him offer them rather the service of his skill, his vigilance, his fortitude, and his probity. For the matter in question is not primarily a problem, nor the answer to it a solution."

1920s Lecture given by L.P. Jacks, quoted by Dorothy L. Sayers in her book, The Mind of the Maker 

Friday, August 18, 2023

LIVE THE QUESTIONS NOW

 

"I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."  


- Letters to a Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke 




Thursday, March 23, 2023

THE HOPE OF SPRING AND NEW VIDEOS

 

The extra light we are getting after daylight savings is going straight to my heart and is slowly healing the whole of my body. I've always said summer is my favorite season, but increasingly, I am endeared to spring because it's the season that rescues me out of winter. We inhaled through a few cold fronts here in March, but now there is promise of real spring. It is surely more poignant because the past couple of seasons has been one of survival, but like the adage says, anything worth doing, takes time.  I skipped planting last year, but I'm feeling up for it this time around. My hands are already tingling with the feel of dirt underneath my fingernails. 

I also recently got around to posting our "home video" camping trips on our Living with the Lus Youtube page - the videos I made before we had any plans to start a Youtube page - and I also finished editing and posting our weekend at Crabtree Falls and Sherando Lake last year.  It helps that I am aching to get back out to the trees and lakes this year.  

If you click on the image below, it will take you to our page. 






Wednesday, November 2, 2022

SWIMMING

 


I saw this video via Swiss Miss not too long ago, and I have thought of it often these past few weeks. When I was cleared for exercise after surgery sometime in mid-September I did some light jogging to see if I could get back into running, but it doesn't seem to be a good fit right now - mysterious back or pelvic pressure happens the day after, I cannot abide running in the dark at 6 AM, and after work routines are no longer routines because of variable factors.  Instead, I decided to look into swimming.  I had been wanting this year to get pointers on my strokes - I know how to swim but never had lessons - so I signed up for six-session private lessons and they have been wonderful. 

My seasonal depression hit especially hard this year - who is to say why, maybe I will be able to, in hindsight - and I had deployed all my usual tactics to little avail. However, swimming was the thing that was definitively effective.  It was a ray of light in my fog haze.  And overall, I do feel that my winter equilibrium is kicking in now.  Hopefully, it stays.  My last lesson is tomorrow morning, but I've signed up for a membership at the local gym that has an indoor pool, so I plan to continue swimming through the winter. 

Last year, I had read a book called, "Why We Swim", by Bonnie Tsui, and while I agreed with the idea of swimming as meditation, and I was fascinated by our relationship as humans to water, it was hard to comprehend the idea of swimming long distances or doing laps over and over again. Being in the water does bring me this utter sense of calm. Everything is going to be okay. But I am also early enough at this - and recent enough from surgery - that I get winded swimming only a couple of laps. I have to take breaks between a lap or two, and I can do laps for 20 minutes at most right now, but that's okay. It feels so good when I'm done. I like to top it off with a few minutes in the sauna- heaven.  I have a ways to go before I can get to my goal of swimming a mile without stopping, but I'm looking forward to trying. 

Here are two excerpts from that book that I found notable for this post: 

For many swimmers, the act of swimming is a tonic, in that old-fashioned sense of the word: it is a restorative, a stimulant, undertaken for a feeling of vigor and well-being. The word tonic comes from the Greek tonikos, “of or for stretching.

Here she is quoting Kafka, who apparently was a swimmer: 

Franz Kafka observed that “the truth is always an abyss. One must—as in a swimming pool—dare to dive from the quivering springboard of trivial everyday experience and sink into the depths, in order later to rise again—laughing and fighting for breath—to the now doubly illuminated surface of things.

And some articles I came across recently: on where to find quiet this winter, cold water swimming, and learning how to swim at 68


Friday, October 21, 2022

MACHIMOCOCCO STATE PARK



The main reason we ideated a YouTube channel was to share our trips to state parks, but then our visit to South Korea happened to be first on deck so we decided to start with videos of that trip instead. But here we are now - our first video to a local state park! It was a trip we took back in May of this year (2022) to Machimococco State Park, which is a relatively new park which opened in April of 2021. It’s about an hour and 20 minutes from Richmond heading east towards the Chesapeake Bay and the park borders the York River.

It is becoming increasingly important to me to know where we live. In the past couple of years that has meant visiting our local parks, learning what grows in our region, and discovering trails and creeks that lead to the Bay not too far east of us. We homeschooled for a year during the 2020-2021 school year, and for part of our history lessons, we learned about the history of where we live and visited the Pamunkey Indian Museum on the Pamunkey Reservation. (The museum is small but it is excellent!)

Machimococco State Park is another such opportunity - where we can learn both about the history as well as the landscape and things that grow in the area. Along with reading good literature, I can’t think of anything more important to the process of understanding who we are and our connection to the world around us. 

We spent half a day at this park and loved getting to explore this quiet, peaceful place. It is beautiful, with trails along both woodlands and waterfront marsh areas. I especially loved the pavilion that provided information about the culture, landscape and movement of Virginia Indians. The girls has a great time going through their junior ranger books here and getting their badge!


Here is some more information from the DCR.VIRGINIA.GOV website: 

“To Virginia Algonquian speakers, eastern Virginia is known as Tsenacomacoh with Werowocomoco as its capital. Over 30 tribes comprised the Algonquian Powhatan Confederacy at its height, an organization linked by the eastern-Algonquian language and united under Chief Wahunsenacawh. Machicomoco will soon be a new Virginia State Park currently in phase I construction and slated to open early 2021 to the public.

Algonquian language and cosmology frames the land and waterscape to represent the experiential qualities of the land. Wayfinding and interpretation throughout the park references geography, physical characteristics of land and ecology using Algonquian language and cultural signifiers. The park, designed in collaboration with input from tribal representatives, seeks to immerse visitors in the history of this land and the rich Powhatan presence that is deeply linked to this land.

Today, descendants of these tribes, namely the Chickahominy, Eastern Chickahominy, Mattaponi, Upper Mattaponi, Monacan, Nansemond, Nottoway, Cheroenhaka (Nottoway), Pamunkey, Patawomeck and Rappahannock, are continuing to assert their presence and engagement with the Tidewater region of Virginia.” Nelson Byrd Woltz, 2020,



The full video below:




Monday, October 17, 2022

SOUTH KOREA 2022 TRIP RECAP


We have posted the last of our trip to Korea videos! We took an extended break because of an unexpected health complication after we got back, but we are mostly back into the swing of things now and wanted to finish this up.   In this video, Ken and I took a few minutes while we were waiting at our gate in South Korea to board our flight back to the U.S. to talk about our favorite and least favorite parts about our trip.  

We made 13 (!) videos about our trip to Korea and you can find the rest of them here on our Youtube channel. They have been so fun for us to look back on!



Wednesday, July 20, 2022

NEW NAME, NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL

on the brooklyn bridge from a trip visiting my sister in summer of 2021

After many, many years as 'The Belletrist', we have entered a new era with a new name.  I can see from the blog archive that I started this blog back in 2008, apparently to transition from xanga (remember xanga!), and it all makes sense because I am a tried and true documentarian. I still have my heavy-handed journals from high school and college, which then turned into xanga entries (long-lost), and then here now on blogpost.  I see I wrote that first post on my birthday, which is also very much true to form: I get especially reflective and hopeful on my birthday. I must have been in England on my study abroad at Cambridge that summer, because I posted this entry a few days later. 


The Belletrist ended up being the place where I mostly documented the journey of becoming a mom. The bulk of my entries are from 2012-2017 during those early years of getting to know both my girls, and also myself as a mom. I was so grateful for this space.  Coincidentally, or maybe not, 2017 is when Ken and I started our podcast, Living With the Moons, which was very fun.  I think that's when we got hooked on working on creative projects together. We wrapped the podcast up in 2020, which is also when I stopped blogging almost completely.  

            
me in Niger February 2020

I had a lot of plans for 2020 - big plans - and I kicked it off with a work trip to Las Vegas and a trip to Niger, Africa. I came back from both trips pumped to put so many ideas into action. But as soon as I got back, the COVID-19 pandemic shut everything down, which required a lot of shifting of gears.  I continued to document on instagram (which is still fun, if not also somewhat insidious) about our year of homeschooling, skateboarding and tennis endeavors, and the books I've been reading (#booksatbeechwood). In 2021, we started hiking everywhere we could get on a weekend so we could be outside and explore, and we also added fishing and camping to the list of things we were all got excited about as a family. 

us in the Shenandoah Mountains fall of 2021

At the beginning of 2022, Ken and I toyed with the idea of starting our podcast up again, which didn't go anywhere. At the same time, I had been learning more about video as content (for work) and pitched Ken the idea of starting a Youtube channel to document all of our trips to state parks.  I do not watch Youtube videos, but I knew Ken did, and the more we brainstormed about it, the more feasible and fun the idea seemed to be - it was another way to document, but in video form! I have a goal for our family to visit as many Virginia state parks as possible (and hopefully some National parks too!) and while there is plenty of information on state parks out there, we think it could be even better.  We named our channel "Living With the Lus" - to echo "Living With the Moons", but instead of interviewing our friends, we would document our family's travels. I remembered I had this blog, updated the name, and here we are. 

Here's the screenshot of the Youtube channel: 
             

We filmed some of the parks we visited at the beginning of the year, but before posting any of those, we started our channel with our big trip of this year - our 3-week trip to South Korea.  If you go to Youtube, you can subscribe to the channel, and you can also go to @livingwiththelus on Instagram where we post every time we upload a new video. We started filming, editing and posting while we were in Korea and have continued since we've been back.  We have one more video to share about that trip, and once we're done, we'll start posting about some of our local state parks that we've visited recently. 

Here is the first of our Korea travel video here below; you can watch the rest of our videos on the channel!






Tuesday, May 31, 2022

MOM'S KIMCHI RECIPE

 


Over the years, my mom would make us kimchi whenever she visited, and at some point I started paying attention to try to learn how to do it myself. It always seemed like an overwhelming and daunting process (I have memories of my grandmother making such large batches of it that she brined the cabbage in the bathtub...!). Even when I did started watching and asking questions, it wasn't until after several sessions, writing down notes, and asking more questions, that I felt ready to try it on my own.  The recipe that I translated is below. 

A few notes: 

  1. Ideally, you get the best ingredients.  My mom is a stickler for this.  Best ingredients make the best kimchi.  Obviously, the best and ideal ingredients are sourced in Korea, but without that option, just do the best you can. 
  2. When it says "tablespoons" below, it is actually referring to a Korean rice spoon, which is similar to a tablespoon, but a is a little bit less than a tablespoon. So when measuring it out, pour a little shy of a full tablespoon. 
  3. This whole process usually takes almost all day because after you prep the cabbage, you have to let it soak for hours (I think my mom usually does 5-6 hours) before you add the spicy mixture in. 

Ingredients:
- 2 medium sized Napa cabbage 
- 15 green onion stalks 
- about 2.5 cups high quality sea salt 
- 3/4 cup of cooked rice or sweet rice flour mixture (my mom always uses the sweet rice flour - it's about 1.5 cups of water with 5 Tablespoons of sweet rice flour over medium heat until it becomes a paste)
- 1/2 cup chopped onion 
- 10 cloves of garlic 
- 2 inches of ginger 
- 1/2 asian pear
- 1.75 cups Korean pepper flakes 
- 1 leek (or the white part of 1 giant green onion)
- 2 tablespoons of sugar 
- 1 radish
- 1/3 cup fish sauce

1.  Remove outer yellow leaves of the cabbage and quarter each of the cabbage (from the root, lengthwise). 
2. Pour about 11-12 cups of water into a large basin, add 1.25 cups of sea salt, and mix to dissolve the salt. 
3.  Add in the quartered cabbage pieces into the basin and soak for about 5 minutes, making sure each get a good wash. 
4. Take cabbage out of salt water, and take about 1.5 cups of the salt to spread it in between all the leaves (about every 2-3 leaves).  Pour the salt water over all the cabbage and leave it submerged for about 4 hours. (After 2 hours, flip the cabbage so they get equal time submerged in the liquid.) In the fall, that time should be about 5 hours, in the winter, the time is about 8 hours. 
5. In a blender, add the chopped onion, radish, pear, leek, garlic, ginger, and bowl of rice (or sweet rice flour mixture) together. Add the fish sauce and 1/3 cup of water and finish blending. 
6. Pour the blended mixture into a bowl and add the red pepper powder, sugar, about 2.5 Tablespoon of salt. Mix together. 
7. After the cabbage has been well-marinated, wash it three times in cold water and put in a colander to drain the water (about 30 minutes). 
8. Cut the green onions to 3 inch pieces. 
9. At this point, you could cut up the cabbage to smaller sizes (I do this) because it is much easier to manage that way. Traditionally, the cabbage is left as a large piece and then is cut every time it's taken it out to eat. 
10. Mix the cabbage, the green onions and the spicy paste mixture all together. Make sure it is thoroughly mixed. Using plastic kitchen gloves is recommended. 
11. Put it into a container (preferably glass or sturdy kimchi container) and store it at room temperature for about a day or two. Then put it in the fridge. 

Friday, December 17, 2021

Literary Party 2021 - Breaking Bread with Dead Poet's

 It has been so long since I have been here that I couldn't properly remember the URL or that it was 'blogspot' not 'blogpost'! When I did finally manage to find my way over here, I noticed that my last post was from March 2020.

2020 had started off with a bang, including some big trips - one to Las Vegas in January for work, and then to Niger, Africa, in February - also for work. 

Then we had the pandemic, the "shut down", which commenced a strange short of new life. Once the shock wore off, adjustments were made, we reveled in home life, and were also exhausted by decision-making and juggling. We made the decision to home school for the 2020-2021 school year, which felt overwhelming, and it was, but it also turned out to be growth inducing and lovely. We learned to be still, and while the ache of being apart from family and friends felt visceral at times, there was also healing that happened.  All the rushing about in the early years of my kids' life, and being away from them for the majority of the day when they were babies was apparently a sort of wound that needed time to heal and this time was that, very unexpectedly. I stopped posting here, but I shared plenty on Instagram.  I made a lot of videos, we heralded the coming of 2021, went on a lot of hikes, started playing more tennis, and I had increasingly more times of quiet reading with the kids, which was a dream come true. 

The year proceeded to fly by at lightening speed with summer heartedly enjoyed with those we hadn't seen in a while.  School commenced for the girls in their local public school in the fall, and I went back to work.  We survived September for all those necessary adjustments and then we come to October, which is what this post will have photos of - the 2021 literary party.  This year, instead of a particular book, author or theme, we decided to have everyone just dress up as their favorite literary character.  It was the first time in a while that we had gathered like this; it was the cherry on top that we got to see everyone together in costume. 

Laura took these lovely photos and I felt they had to be shared somewhere, and so here we are. 


 
And here we have each of the families: 
The Mysterious Benedict Society 
The Phantom Tollbooth
Harriet Vane!!! and Co. 
The Wingfeather Saga
Robert Louis Stevenson, Fanny Stevenson, Jim Hawkins and The Black Arrow
Medusa, Poseidon, and the Gray Sisters
Edgar Allan Poe, Jo March, Reepicheep and a Narnian dryad
 
I mean, how fantastic is he as Poe!
Peter Rabbit
Horton Hears a Who!

Here is the video I made for this years' if you want to see: 


And for my archvies, videos of past years' literary parties:
Neverland (2015): https://vimeo.com/144295107
Wonderland (2016):  https://vimeo.com/189538480 
Narnia (2017): https://vimeo.com/472042031 
All Dahled Up (2018): https://vimeo.com/305401760
Fairytalia (2019): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lo4OruYC-20
Frances Hodgson Burnett - The Secret Garden & The Little Princess (2020) (no video because we didn't attend this one!) 



Tuesday, March 24, 2020

WALKING CONTEST



I love this video by Daniel Koren.  I read about it first in the book, "The Art of Noticing" by Rob Walker. The message is so perfectly delivered in its video form and it's a message that everyone can relate to.

Monday, February 17, 2020

BRUNCH WITH MY PARENTS


I'm going to shift the purpose of this blog from primarily documenting life happenings, to a place where I can share ideas and inspiration. I've gotten back-logged with life event posts that I have meant to write about from the last few months of 2019, but those will be captured in the Chatbooks I've been making and printing for each season.  I've been more interested these days in posting creative prompts that I am mulling over.  I will still post life things but won't feel pressured to do so if I have something else I'd rather share instead. This is me giving myself the permission!

These photos here are from a brunch that I had with my parents a few months ago on a Saturday morning. It is always a pleasure and privilege to converse with them. They are traveling now, and I've been inspired by my mom's photos and my dad's drawings as they explore new places.

I've also been inspired by a lot of good writing lately. In particular, two very different styles: Lionel Shriver and Jacqueline Woodson.  What Mark Twain said about how a good writer treats a long sentence rang particularly true for Shriver's writing:  "At times [she] may indulge [herself] with a long one, but [she] will make sure there are no folds in it, no vagueness, no parenthetical interruptions of its view as a whole; when [she] has done with it, it won't be a sea-serpent with half of its arches under the water; it will be a torch-light procession." 







Tuesday, February 4, 2020

A BIRTHDAY CAMPING TRIP



Scenes from a backpacking camping trip last September of women and some of their children: the sturdiest and dreamiest bunch I ever did see.